Therapy for Chronic Caretakers & People Pleasers
In person therapy in Santa Fe, New Mexico, and Virtual therapy across New Mexico, Washington, and Nevada.
“So many of us grew up—and remain—in survival mode. When life becomes about getting through the day, there is little space to pause and notice the deeper patterns underneath our choices, relationships, and reactions. We adapt, react, and keep moving forward the best way we know how.”
- Jenni Laszlo, LPCC, LMHC, CPC
Somewhere along the way, you learned that being needed was safer than having needs.
You can tell me exactly what everyone else needs, wants, prefers, and feels. Ask what you want, and suddenly things get a little fuzzier.
You say yes when you want to say no, then spend the entire drive home wondering why you agreed to it.
You are exhausted, overwhelmed, and stretched thin, but the thought of disappointing someone feels worse than the thought of burning yourself out.
You worry about being selfish while simultaneously running on empty.
You have spent so much time being the reliable one that you've lost touch with the parts of yourself that don't exist in order to take care of everyone else.
You are allowed to take up space in your own life.
What if you could care deeply about others without carrying the weight of everyone else's emotions? As you begin reconnecting with your own needs, wants, and boundaries, relationships start to feel more honest and less draining.
You become more comfortable asking for support, taking up space, and making decisions based on what feels right for you instead of what keeps everyone else happy.
There is more room for joy, rest, authentic connection, and the freedom to simply be yourself.
You don’t have to earn your worth here.
I don't believe people pleasing means there's something wrong with you. More often, it's a sign that you've spent a long time learning how to keep the peace, take care of others, and make sure everyone around you is okay.
The problem is that somewhere along the way, you may have stopped extending that same care to yourself.
Together, we'll work on understanding those patterns, creating healthier boundaries, and helping you build relationships that leave room for both your needs and everyone else's.
Who this type of therapy is for:
○ Chronic caretakers who spend so much time taking care of everyone else that they barely have energy left for themselves
○ People who feel responsible for everyone else's feelings, problems, or happiness.
○ Adults who have spent years being the helper, fixer, peacemaker, or emotional support person in their relationships.
○ Those who struggle to say no without guilt, anxiety, or feeling like they're letting someone down.
○ People who find it much easier to give support than to receive it.
○ Those who want healthier boundaries without feeling selfish.
○ People who feel more comfortable being needed than being vulnerable.